Avoidant Reset Code
A three-month group program for men with avoidant attachment who want secure relationships
The Avoidant Reset Code (ARC) is a three-month program for men who keep repeating avoidant relationship patterns, whether they are single or with a partner. Many of them have wanted change for a long time. What has been missing is an understanding of where the patterns come from and a structured way to work on them.
ARC is run by psychologists Maika and Thomas Steinborn and is built around weekly live group sessions, daily exercises and a moderated community chat. It is exclusively for men and tailored to avoidant tendencies. Enrollment opens for a few days at a time so each group can settle. The next window opens in November 2026.
Outcomes
- Understand where your avoidance actually comes from
- Handle difficult moments instead of shutting down
- Manage your own emotions and respond well to a partner
- Help your partner feel close to you
- Stop enduring relationships and start enjoying them
What's included?
Weekly Live Group Sessions
Weekly one-hour live group coaching sessions with Maika and Thomas, focused on what you need to move forward. Sessions are recorded and available to members.
Daily Exercises
Daily exercises to build new skills and more helpful behaviors in your relationships, so the work shows up in how you interact with your partner and others.
Group Chat Support
Ongoing text-based support in the moderated group chat, where Maika and Thomas respond directly to your questions between sessions.
Discovery Sessions
A pre-recorded Discovery Session each week that explains the ideas behind avoidant patterns and secure attachment, so you can watch at a time that suits you.
Guided Audio Exercises
Recorded guided audio exercises that you can use on your own schedule to practice new ways of handling feelings and connection.
Worksheets and Reference Materials
Worksheets and reference materials that support your process between live sessions and help you keep track of what you are learning.
Community of Men
A community of men who take this work as seriously as you do, with confidentiality and respect rules that keep the tone kind and encouraging.
Refund Window
A full refund up to 60 days into the program: no questions asked for the first 14 days, then after a short live video call.
Who is this for?
- Men with avoidant attachment tendencies who are in a relationship and want more closeness
- Single men who keep repeating the same avoidant patterns in dating
- Men who feel smothered by a partner or suppress needs until they turn into resentment
- Men who prefer practicing change with a group of peers over working alone
About the creator
Avoidant Reset Code
Group coaching for men with avoidant attachment, led by Berlin psychologists
Avoidant Reset Code is a coaching program created by psychologists Maika and Thomas Steinborn, who live in Berlin, Germany. Both have experience in clinical psychology and as consultants in organizational settings, and they have worked with hundreds...